Getting good one topic at a time.
Do black men get criticized too much for the things that bring them joy? Are women okay with men having a good time without them…..why or why not? Is black boy joy something that society is really trying to block. We discuss the idea of solo enjoyment and the importance of it to your mental health.
There was a conversation that took Twitter by storm regarding who is carrying the emotional weight in black relationships. Today we discuss whether or not women have been overcompensating and bearing the brunt of the emotional weight of relationships due to the lack of empathy, emotional maturity, and emotional intelligence of men. Warren P gives his perspective that he feels the weight that men carry in relationships has been overlooked. Tell Mikell speaks on the lack of emotional maturity he has witnessed from men when he is actively helping couples and gives us a glimpse of the feeling wheel and how he has to develop men and their ability to point out their feelings in a healthy way. Sam Dupe discusses different ways in which he has fallen short emotionally and how it contributed to some of the hardest relationship struggles he’s had in his marriage.
Today we are talking about the Meg Thee Stallion Tory Lanez situation. Warren and Sam Dupe have had an ongoing argument regarding how the court of public opinion has treated Tory Lanez during this whole ordeal. Warren feels that black men don’t get enough grace in situations that involve any type of criminal activity and wants people to extend the same grace to men that women get. Sam Dupe perspective is clearly Tory Lanez’s neglect in one way or another caused harm to Megan and the consequences of the public’s opinions were brought on by his decisions. We discuss what responsible gun ownership is and Tell Mikell explains how what Tory Lanez is going through is a product of his decisions and his immaturity. We have a discussion about what manhood looks like during trying times and how sometimes you have to take things on the chin until the facts can be cleared.
Today we talk about how difficult it is for men to rest because our perceived worth is embedded within our everyday grind and our everyday struggle. So many men work themselves to exhaustion and don’t think twice about it because they are taught that their value is tied to how much they can produce or how much they can perform. We break down how the need and the want to grind can also be tied to a trauma response instead of just passion or drive. We really dive deep into the self-doubt that creeps in even when we do decide to take more of a break or work less.
Today we are having a conversation about men that are scared to be in successful relationships. Sam Dupe has an interesting theory that he feels like there are a lot of men out here that are afraid of the responsibility associated with being the head of household. We analyze whether or not that fear manifests itself in the sabotage of romantic relationships that otherwise could be successful. We also talk about being a support system to help men get over the fear and what that looks like. The reality is the role of being a protector and provider comes with a lot of pressure that can be a strong deterrent and the goal is to restore confidence in these men so that we can grow our families and our legacies.
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Today we bring on a special guest Cam J who speaks about his struggles with Post-Graduation Depression. Cam talks about how the transition from college to working every day and trying to balance his old social life with his new post-graduate life was difficult for him. He discussed his issues with being the youngest at his job and how at times it felt as if he didn’t have what it took to fulfill his duties and responsibilities. Imposter syndrome and bad management diminished his professional confidence and how he was able to overcome those things. Cam also discussed how he was able to get himself back in order through helping others, mentoring, and taking care of himself physically. Post-Graduation Depression is very common and needs to be talked about more in order to help others understand that they are not alone.
Today we are talking with Pastor Theodore Rollins of Suwannee Worship Center regarding the state of the black church. We discuss how the black church went from being a staple in the community to one of the most criticized parts of the community. We discuss the emergence of megachurches and what that means for the black community. We also talk about how black churches used to be the driving force in political change for blacks but no longer holds that position in our society and why that is. We discuss how the church has lost its mission. Pastor Ted talks about what churches have to do in a post-COVID-19 world in order to grow membership and bring back the relevance of the church. Pastor Ted wraps up the conversation with a message on how to exercise their faith moving forward in life.
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Today we are talking all about crime and how it has spiked over the past year or so. Tell Mikell believes that the rise in crime is due to organized crime and Joe Dupe thinks that the rise in crime specifically in Atlanta is based on an energy shift and high anxiety and normal people are committing violent crimes who have never committed a violent crime. It seems like everyone is on high alert and ready to end each other’s lives at a moment’s notice. High anxiety that has not been dealt with maybe the reason for this spike in violent crime because people have not been able to release and actually deal with what they went through in 2020. We also talk about the young people who are now carrying guns at a higher rate than usual and making poor decisions trying to seek a certain status in their organized crime families. We also discuss how we have moved differently and reacted differently because we see every interaction as a possible life and death interaction.
On today’s podcast we are talking about languishing which is often referred to as the middle child of mental health. Languish often gets overlooked because it is not quite depressed and not quite thriving it is a weird stage in the middle. Languishing is like living but looking at your life through a foggy window. You’re not quite depressed and have the energy to do life, but life for some reason or another is not bringing you the joy that you once had. We all discuss how we felt languish throughout 2020 and how we individually got out of that state. We talk about goal setting and the importance of doing things to take control over your life even when times are uncertain and unveil our 2020 superpower that we have brought with us into 2021.
Today we are talking about a depressed black community. We discuss why it is that some black communities are in such a distressed state. Can a community as a whole be depressed? We discuss whether or not black communities have pride in things that have been detrimental to us as a whole. Mikell discusses how the black community attacked the church and although the church did have many faults, the church has been vital to our spirituality and has been a hub for improving our communities. Sam, Joe Dupe, and Mikell have a debate about pride and how Mikell thinks that black communities have too much pride which leads to some of the issues that black people have and Sam thinks that black communities have pride in the wrong things and should shift their pride to the things that actually matter. We discuss how it is time for black communities to change their value system in order to make changes. How do we work on our value system and change our environment?
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